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Today, we will explore a few habits that unknowingly blocks feminine energy.

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Now, this one hits close to home for me.

For a long time, I thought that being controlling and hard on myself would get me where I wanted to be. It didn’t, and unfortunately, I learnt the hard way that this “Go mode” never will.

Me always doing or fixing, never gave myself enough time to pause, breathe and check in with myself.

I was crushing my feminine energy.

Over time, I became restless, numb, and uninspired.

My hidden unhealthy habits were the cause!

They were so subtle that they felt harmless, but they took a toll on my life for several years.

After learning to slow down and embrace rest and pleasure through mindful journaling and meditation, only then was I able to quit these habits, and I hope you can too.

By sharing these habits blocking your feminine energy and how to quit them, I hope you make intentional shifts that will bring you back to your natural, radiant, and magnetic feminine self.

This post is all about secret habits blocking feminine energy

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HABITS THAT BLOCKS FEMININE ENERGY

🌸WHAT IS FEMININE ENERGY?

🌸 WHAT CAUSE YOUR FEMININE ENERGY TO BE BLOCKED?

🌸 THE 7 HABITS BLOCKING YOUR FEMININE ENERGY 

What Is Feminine Energy?

Feminine energy is an internal magnetic force that helps both women and men move through life with grace, self-trust, and softness.

Feminine energy also helps women to harvest emotional qualities like creativity, empathy, intuition, and the ability to nurture and receive.

Leaning into these qualities is the key to living a healthy, happy, fulfilled, and balanced life.

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What blocks your feminine energy?

Feminine energy is all about feeling safe, soft, and in flow. 

If it doesn’t feel safe or soft, it is cut off from flowing.

I believe that a lack of self-love and self-care is what blocks feminine energy the most.

Why?

Because when you don’t feel worthy or care for yourself, you block abundance from flowing to your life.

This shows up in your life as you nitpicking everything you do and always talking yourself down, seeking approval or compliments from others, whether you know them or not, always saying yes and never having time for that candlelit bath, 30-minute break, or walk that you promised yourself you would take.

A few other things you’re doing that are blocking your feminine energy:

• Being in a constant “hustle mode” where you always doing, fixing, and controlling.

 

• Living too much in your head (overthinking, stressing)

 

• Constantly criticizing yourself or believing you’re “not enough”

 

• Being a people pleaser and never setting boundaries

 

• You don’t feel creative

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Innocent Habits Blocking Your Feminine Energy

1. Overthinking 

Is one of the biggest blocks to feminine energy because it pulls you out of your body and into your head.

You’re either trapped in fear or doubt.

I remember when overthinking was my best friend.

I would feel my mind racing to figure out what I’d do the next day or what my next post is going to be about…. Will anyone read it?

I thought it would make me feel more relaxed, but the habit did not bring me comfort like I thought it would, nor did it solve the problem.

After activating my feminine energy, I understood that overthinking doesn’t solve problems—it creates them. The key to my struggles is learning to trust myself, let go of control, and embrace the present. 

A few tips to shift you out of overthinking and into feminine flow:

✨ Start practicing mindfulness—focus on your senses (what you see, hear, smell, taste, and feel) to anchor yourself in the now.

Journal, meditate, or do yoga to quiet your thoughts and put you at ease

✨Get out of your head and into your body: instead of analyzing everything, get up and move your body– Dance, move, or breathe deeply.

 

✨ Trust yourself – When you make a mistake, you will have the opportunity to grow from it.

 

✨ Practice surrender – Stop trying to control everything and allow life to unfold naturally–embrace the moment.

 

✨ Prioritize joy & pleasure – Do things just because they make you feel good–paint, sing, make a vision board, or try a new hobby just for fun.

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2. Comparing yourself 

To others, is another innocent habit that’s blocking your feminine energy.

With social media constantly showing us people who have the things we “think we want”, we develop the unhealthy habit of comparing ourselves to others, which puts us in a scarcity mindset.

Honestly, it took me a while to stop focusing on the things I didn’t have instead of being grateful for the things I had.

I came the realization that I don’t need to chase or compete with others, there’s more than enough love, beauty, success, and joy to go around.

The more I shift out of this mindset with gratitude journaling was the more I naturally shift into my feminine energy.

This mindset will make you believe you must chase or compete with others to get what you want, which is untrue.

How to Shift from Scarcity to Abundance:

✨ Start trusting & surrender – believe that everything meant for you will come with ease.

 

✨ Practicing gratitude – focus on what you already have instead of what you don’t.

 

✨ Embody worthiness – you don’t have to prove or chase—you are already enough.

 

✨ Celebrate others –support other women—her success is proof that it’s possible for you too.

 

✨ Stay open to receiving – accept love, help, and opportunities with grace.

3. Juggling too many things at once

Will have your nervous system in a frenzy.

Now. I know you think that multitasking is the ultimate productivity hack, but I promise you, this habit is blocking your feminine energy.

Why?

Because when you’re doing too many things at once, you’re constantly in “hustle mode”, which makes it hard for you to slow down, feel, and be.

Which means most days you are exhausted, uninspired, and lack creativity, which are HUGE blocks for your feminine energy.

If you want to add play and pleasure to your daily routine, it’s time you shift from hustle mode to a state of flow.

Here’s how you shift from on-the-go mode and slow down: 

✨ Practice slowing down: Check in with yourself. ask yourself daily —“How am I feeling? What do I need right now?”

 

✨Prioritize self-care by starting your day with a quiet moment for gratitude and taking short breaks from tasks to clear your mind or breathe deeply.

 

✨Listen to your intuition: pay attention to how your body feels and go with your gut feeling.

 

✨Redefine success: start focusing on small task that brings you joy rather than the complicated tasks that stress you out.

 

✨Let go of the need to do everything alone: Allow yourself to receive help and support from others.

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4. Saying yes to everything

And neglecting your own needs blocks your feminine energy from feeling safe.

Always saying “yes” to favors from friends or family members does not make you a good friend or a dependable person.

It only shows that you are an enabler who overrides your feelings to please others.

Trust me, I can relate.

But, what I realized over the years was that more than 80% of my “yes” really meant “no”🤣

I was only able to admit this when I realized that I had zero boundaries, and as a result, I would say yes to things I cannot commit to, leaving me resentful of my loved ones.

I also realized that being a constant “yes man” was blocking my feminine energy.

I was constantly in a state of giving and not receiving, which created such an imbalance in my life.

I now know that I am allowed to set healthy boundaries, and it doesn’t make me a bad person; it makes me honor myself and create balance for joy and getting help from others, which feminine energy thrives in.

How to shift out of the habit of saying “Yes”. 

✨Set boundaries with grace: Feminine energy is also about honoring yourself and using discernment. So the next time you need to say “no”, do it with grace and say, “I appreciate you thinking of me, but I can’t make that commitment right now.”

 

✨Prioritize receiving: Your feminine energy thrives when you allow others to support you. Ask others for help, and thank others when they give you compliments

 

✨Release the need to please others: People pleasing comes from the need to seek validation. Practice shifting your scarcity mindset by reciting dark affirmations, “My worth is not determined by what I do for others.”

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5. Constantly  complaining

Blocks your feminine energy by staying stuck in a loop of frustration and blame.

I used to be a constant complainer.

It was my default habit on days when I felt like I was just dragging my feet due to a lack of sleep or being overworked, which meant I was drained before the weekend.

I’ll complain at all costs, even though I knew it wouldn’t solve my problems.

Over time, I realized that being a chronic complainer not only made me feel helpless, but I was also stuck with anger and stress, which caused so much tension in my body that it blocked my feminine energy.

Feminine energy thrives in peace, relaxation, and joy. 

When you are a constant complainer, you naturally shift into masculine energy, which means you’re in constantly doing rather than being.

This is when you need to take a step back and create some space for flow, peace, and joy.

How to Shift from Constantly Complaining

✨ Practice Gratitude: One sentence of daily gratitude can help you unblock feminine energy by shifting your mindset and energy. Stop and appreciate and say to yourself, “How beautiful and soothing is the rain today?”.

 

✨Learn to surrender and trust: Instead of complaining about things you can’t change when things don’t go well, practice reassuring yourself, “I trust everything is working out as it should”.

 

✨Focus on solutions instead: feminine energy is about embracing solutions with flow. When you find yourself complaining, shift from “Why is this happening to me?” ~ “What can I do to make this easier?”.

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6. Spending too much time indoors

Keeps you stagnant and dims your energy, which blocks your feminine energy.

If you’re anything like me, you love being indoors.

You even, at times, tell yourself that you’re not an outdoors kind of gal😕

You just love to relax by your desk with a cup of coffee, get some work done, and then jump into bed to your favorite show on Netflix.

Sadly, this innocent habit is crushing your feminine energy.

The divine feminine thrives in taking pleasure in the small things in life. The things we can touch, see, hear, and interact with. 

Little things like insects walking about, the sound of birds singing through the wind, or just plain old moving your body by going for a walk.

When you are indoors every day, you are robbed of enjoying these little things, which increase your stress and anxiety levels and destroy your feminine energy.

So, make it your daily routine to spend time outside in nature to bring your feminine energy to life.

Here are a few outdoor activities to channel feminine energy:

✨ Step outside daily – even if it’s just a short walk or spending some time in your garden.

 

✨ Move your body – dance, stretch, or take a yoga class to soften your energy.

 

✨ Embrace the elements – feel the wind, sun, or rain on your skin to awaken your senses.

 

✨ Go on nature excursions – plan trips to parks, forests, or beaches to reconnect with the natural world.

 

✨ Create a peaceful, feminine space indoors – if you need to be inside, make it nurturing with natural elements like plants, candles, and soft lighting.

7. Skipping gratitude

Will keep your heart closed. 

You’ll start living in your head, overthinking, controlling, or criticizing.

There is always something missing.

Which means we sometimes overlook the blessings and memories that we already have.

I know it can be tough to be grateful when life has kicked you down often, but skipping gratitude only increases stress and anxiety, which shifts you into worry.

Here’s how you can practice gratitude journaling:

✨ Start a gratitude journal – Write down 3 things you’re grateful for every day.

 

✨ Express gratitude verbally – Thank others for their kindness, support, and love.

 

✨ Practice gratitude in your body – Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and feel gratitude in every cell of your body.

 

✨ Focus on abundance – Shift from a mindset of lack to one of overflow by acknowledging all the blessings in your life.

 

✨ Embrace small moments – Be grateful for everyday things, from the warmth of the sun to a delicious meal.

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Final Thoughts:

Every day habits may seem harmless, but can block your feminine energy without you realizing it.

The good news? Small shifts—like slowing down, embracing pleasure, and allowing yourself to receive—can bring you back to your feminine energy.

Thanks for reading. I truly hope you cultivate the right mindset and consistency to challenge the negative habits blocking your feminine energy. Once you’re able to, you’ll be well on your way to reviving and rejuvenating your feminine energy again and becoming your dream woman.

Always remember: “A feminine woman radiates joy, not because life is perfect, but because she chooses to bloom anyway”.