The only reason you are not your dream woman is because you haven’t decided to be her.

This post is all about how to become your dream woman.

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You know the girl that you always watch, where you say, I want to be just like her.

The girl who is magnetic, stylish, lives by intention, and in her feminine energy.

Your dream girl.

If you want to wake up as the truest and most loving version of yourself, it’s time you became your dream woman.

This might come as a surprise to you, but your dream woman already lives inside of you. You just need to start embodying her values, habits, and desires, and speaking as if she is you, because she is.

Becoming her means letting go of the wounds, patterns, and limiting beliefs that keep you stuck.

If you are ready to level up and become your dream woman, you have to start making decisions that align with her.

The more you show up as her now, the more the world will respond accordingly.

Living a life of your dreams will come from choosing her energy repeatedly until it becomes second nature.

Maybe you decide to press snooze instead of waking up and going to the gym; over time, this small action adds up and forms an unhealthy habit.

You decided to choose laziness over hard work and getting your body moving so you can feel and look better.

So, decide that you want to be the best version of yourself with every decision you make from this point on.

 

What is the “Dream life”?

The dream life is not just an accomplishment or a perfect aesthetic- It’s a life that feels like you.

It’s created day by day through living in a way that feels peaceful, intentional, and safe.

The dream life looks like:

• Making decisions that feel right in your heart
• You trust yourself. You’re showing up. You’re healing, growing, and stepping into your dream self more and more every day.
• You no longer hustle for your worth. You attract what’s meant for you by being rooted in self-worth, not constant proving.

How To Become Your Dream Woman

The only reason you are not your dream woman is that you have not decided to be her.

For a long time, you’ve convinced yourself that you are delusional for thinking that you can become her.

Well, you’re wrong! Thankfully.

I am here to tell you that it’s only delusional until you decide.

Trust me, your dream woman is not waiting for the perfect timing, more money, better circumstances, or external validation.

She’s waiting for one thing only: your decision.

That’s right, by deciding to be her, you get to create the life of your dreams, and your life gets to be as amazing as you want it to be.

It only sounds unrealistic because you’re second-guessing yourself.

Once you make a final decision to be her, your life will start shifting to a life that lights you up, and you will return to your truest, most radiant self.

Here’s how you become your dream woman:

• You decide and commit

Becoming your dream woman will not happen overnight or by chance.

It’s not just about you saying, “I’m going to start eating healthy” or “I’m going to love myself.”

It’s going to take an identity shift, it’s you changing your personality by listening to your intuition.

It’s you deciding within.

You permitting yourself to step into your next level.

It’s you surrendering, letting go of control, relaxing, and leaning into flow.

Once you’ve made your decision, it will activate your path, and you’ll create a new way of showing up for yourself and never have to second-guess or be indecisive again.

 

• You discipline yourself with love

The truth is, you don’t need to be so hard on yourself; everyone already is.

Start celebrating yourself, accept your flaws, nourish your body, and speak kindly to yourself.

When you discipline yourself with love, it’s you saying, “I deserve a body that feels good”, “I value my time”.

You’re able to choose what you are no longer available for in your life. Whether it’s thinking badly about yourself, being indecisive, having unhealthy habits and routines, etc.

You become so disciplined in your behavior even when you’re uncomfortable. You become so devoted and loyal to the woman you’re becoming.

You let your habits be rooted in self-compassion and self-respect.

To get started with discipline, start small by keeping a promise to yourself.

If you say that you’re going to take a 10-minute break from social media, follow through but with grace.

So if you fall off, no shame, just return.

 

• Practice being her every single day

The easiest way to be your dream woman is to match her energy every day. 

Not on days when you feel like it. Even on tough days, when you don’t feel like it.

So, start dressing like her, waking up early, drinking more water, making healthier meals, and romanticizing your life daily, and speak confidently like her.

Live as her now and embody her energy.

• You stay devoted to your vision

Fall in love with becoming her. Become deeply loyal to her.

Even when you’re in doubt, stay consistent and keep showing up even on the hard days because the dream is more sacred.

Become so obsessed with her that she will start to live within you and guide your choices.

You become devoted to her by remembering she already lives within her, so you’re not chasing her but coming back to her.

• Hold onto the life she desires

Desires fade when we forget about them, and this is why you have to make them daily rituals to stay connected to them.

Ground the desire to become your Dream woman by reminding yourself with divine whispers. Say to yourself:

◦ “Even on the slow days, I’m still becoming her.”
◦ “I wouldn’t have this desire if I weren’t meant to be her.”
◦ “Even now, I can feel her within me”

 

Habits to eliminate to become your Dream woman

• Distracting yourself

Do you usually distract yourself when you don’t feel like bothering to do something? 

I can relate. This might look like What this looks like: binge eating or constantly scrolling social media, procrastination, or even putting things off until later.

It’s never because you’re just tired, lazy, or don’t feel like it. There is a deeper root to why you are not getting things done.

It’s because you are terrified of what could happen. But if you decide to sit with yourself, journal, meditate, and take the time to think of the emotions you’re uncomfortable with, you can overcome this.

• Having a victim mindset

Do you ever feel like you’re competing to be a victim?

Do you find yourself complaining a lot, trying to get sympathy, or constantly talking about your problems?

Until you break out of the habit of being the victim, you are going to constantly create a reality in which you are suffering every day. 

The first step is to notice it with compassion, not criticism.

Instead of telling yourself, “Nothing ever works out for me” or “Why does this always happen to me?”, change your words to “I’m learning to respond with strength” or “I’ll start now, with what I have.”

• Gossiping

Gossiping will always make you look bad.

When you choose not to talk badly about other people, you will have a clear conscience and don’t have to worry if the person knows you’re talking about them.

You also have friends who trust you because they know you’re talking about are someone who will never talk behind their back.

You will also attract high-quality people and experiences.

Habits to adopt to become your Dream woman

• Get ready every single day

Life is way too short to wait for a special occasion to do your hair, makeup, or to put on a good outfit.

Why?

Because when you look good, you feel good.

So, start dressing up for yourself today, dress in ways your dream girl would.

When you care and invest in yourself, you will ultimately become a more feminine and gentle woman. I talk more about this in my blog post How to Be A More Feminine Woman.

• Become the luckiest girl alive

There is no set rule on life, you create what life gets to look like.

And I promise you, girl, it gets to be beautiful and fun.

To become the luckiest girl alive, speak about your desires like they’re already yours, and treat yourself like the main character… the luckier you’ll become.

• Make decisions that your future self will thank you for.

If you want to get your dream body, make the decision to want nutritious plant base foods rather than eating fast food.

Do the things that are the delayed gratification, yes, they will be painful at the moment, but they will bring you that successful, vibrant future.

10 seconds of discomfort is so much better than a lifetime of regret.

Habits To Pull Your Dream Life Right To You

1. Have an intentional morning routine that you love

Imagine waking up every morning to a routine that anchors you into your dream woman energy by helping you to glow up in your softness.

So, instead of rushing out of bed and immediately diving into your to-do list, ask yourself, “What would my dream woman be doing today?”

Because anyone can follow a morning routine for a week…but your dream woman’s routine is more than a mere habit.

It’s her lifestyle. 

You have to level up and become her by an intentional identity shift, not some random tutorial you found on YouTube.

To do this, start with a ritual that gently grounds you. l start with 5 5-minute meditation.

This keeps my thoughts quiet to get a few extra minutes of calm for myself.

Let’s say you love (reading, journaling, reciting affirmations, break work, yoga, etc.), start your day with an intentional practice that will help you to be more present with yourself before diving into the chaos of the world.

2. Act like her life is already yours

Your dream woman is not somewhere in a faraway future, it’s in you deciding and showing up as her.

The truth is all you need to do to become her is to act as if you already are by doing the things you know she would do.

This looks like:– walking into a room with her confidence, dressing up as her, speaking the way she does, making decisions she’ll be proud of, and being confident and happy with yourself.

Remember, she is already in you.

3. Prioritize pleasure and play
The more you lean into what lights you up is the more you pull your dream life to you.

Make time for the things that bring you pure joy- laugh and don’t hold back, dance like no one’s watching, paint, draw, and bring your creativity to life.

Remember joyful childhood-moments and lean into them because becoming your dream woman is not about becoming someone new but remembering who you’ve always been- fun, playful and happy.

4. Say no to the things that don’t align with you
Not every invitation is in your best interest.

There comes a time in your life when you have to protect your energy.

A time when you have to say “No”

And it’s not about being harsh or hard.

It’s about protecting your energy and choosing yourself by protecting your peace and letting go of things that no longer make you feel safe- habits, routines, people, and the old version of you.

It’s about choosing a life that reflects your new path to self-love and abundance.

5. Visualize your dream life every day
To know that it’s possible once you choose to break the habit of your old self and become a new you.

Now, visualizing your dream self is not about daydreaming or pretending to already have your dream life. It’s about rewiring your mindset, focus, and energy to feel it, believe it, and eventually live it.

As a high value woman, your dream woman is already inside of you. All she needs is your acceptance, attention, and vision to live as her, for the rest of your life.

When I started to see images that reflects the habits and routines I desired for my life I began to belief it was possible.

The way I did this was crafting my dream life vision board which inspired healthy habits and routines that anchored me on a more intentional path each day.

Take a quiet moment and ask yourself:
Who is my dream woman?
How does she wake up in the morning? How does she walk, talk, dress, and move?
What does her day look like?
What energy does she give off?

Reminder: Create a vision board and keep it somewhere where you can see it- on your phone or computer to help you retire your mind.

6. Let go of limiting beliefs

That’s holding you back from thinking, moving, and being your dream woman.

Those sneaky thoughts that you’re not smart enough, not ready yet, or don’t deserve opportunities, are just not true.

They are just limiting thoughts that keep you in your comfort zone and from creating your dream life.

The truth is, you can shift out of these thoughts by remembering who you are.

That girl who is intuitive, full of life, walks into a room with her head high and creates her dream life because she loves and believes in herself.

When these thoughts pop up catch them when they show up, repeat it with a new belief that you know is true about yourself and affirm that new belief.

“I’m too emotional- ‘My emotions are my strength”
“I have to earn love- “I am worthy of love just the way I am”.

7. Surround yourself with expansion
You become what you’re around and vice versa.

Becoming your dream woman is about getting comfortable with being around people and in spaces that level up your mindset.

Get into a book club where women uplifts and empowers each other, read books together, follow other women who inspires,  share their passions and interest with each others and hold each other accountable to grow and change.

8. Romanticize small wins
We’re taught to celebrate “big moments” that we’re proud of- like buying our dream car or finding the perfect partner.

But what about those tiny choices that led to those big wins?

They matter just as much.

Let’s be real, big dreams take time, and your dream woman knows this.

That’s why she knows she should never miss a moment to acknowledge and romanticize the now, even if it’s imperfect.

So, whether it’s following through on something minor, caring for your body, getting enough rest, or even a slow morning routine.

Light a candle, do a happy dance, give yourself a high five, or smile at yourself in the mirror. You can even write an “ I am proud of myself” note to yourself.

Celebrating your small moments will help you to accept that you are already your dream woman.