This post is all about how to be genuinely happy with yourself
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Becoming genuinely happy is all about taking time out to fall in love with yourself.
Sometimes we get the feeling that something is missing in our lives. A partner, a job, or friendships.
This can lead us to feeling like happiness is a destination and we need to pack the first bag and try to get there.
But this is furthest from the truth.
Happiness is knowing that you are wholesome even when you’re alone, appreciating the small things, learning to enjoy your own company, and, of course, doing the things that’ll make you happy.
In this post, I will explore how you can focus on yourself and change your mindset to become genuinely happy with yourself.
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What does “being happy” really mean?
Being happy means living on your terms and being okay with who you are-flaws and all.
How to know if you’re happy with yourself?
You feel safe with yourself again and no longer try to seek it.
You find joy in being alone, the present moment, and don’t wait for happiness to come to you.
You do things that excite you, things that make you feel joyful and at peace every day, without thinking about what others think or asking for permission.
Whether it’s the job you’re passionate about, or just a hobby, or even learning something new.
Here are a few other reasons to know if you’re happy with yourself:
- You enjoy your own company
- You never criticize yourself
- You say no to things that don’t align with you
- You trust your decisions
- You don’t constantly try to chase the next thing
- You prioritize rest and slow living without feeling guilty about it
- You celebrate your small wins, even if it’s going for a walk
How to be happy when you’re single.
Being single can be seen as a bad thing, especially because a lot of people attach happiness to having a partner and being in love.
But truly, having a partner does not mean that someone is in love with them. I’m sure you can think of many reasons people are in relationships.
So, to answer the question. Yes. You can still be happy even if you’re single.
I was single for several years before l started dating my now boyfriend, and I am so happy that I waited.
Not because I was looking for the perfect guy but because during my single season I rediscovered myself and enjoyed my own company, fill my days with hobbies that made be happy and made decisions without having to consider how my partner would feel about it.
I also learned that I, but he adds to what is already there.
Here are a few tips to be single and happy:
How to be genuinely happy with yourself (again)
1. Stop comparing yourself to others
You’re not them, and it’s so cool that you never have to be.
So stop being so hard on yourself.
Someone’s best moment or angle is just that.
Their best moment.
It’s temporary.
You can be happy again if you stop looking in someone else’s mirror rather than your own.
The grass is not always greener on the other side.
So take everything that you see on social media with a grain of salt because, for one, you don’t know the full story behind anyone’s glow, and remember that everyone is on their timeline.
Their story will never be yours. And that’s okay.
Instead, shift your focus to your unique passions and gifts.
Ask yourself:
What activities light me up?
What do I do well with little effort?
It’s the things that feels good for you and not what others are doing that will make you genuinely happy again.
2. Distract yourself
Not by scrolling on your phone all the time, but as an outlet to quiet your thoughts.
Now this is not to hide your feelings- but give them space to soften to not over power you.
You do this by doing things that make you feel genuinely happy again.
You know, the things that brought you joy as a child.
Paint, watch a cartoon, bake, play an instrument, or go outside in nature.
You’ll simply lose track of time, purely enjoying without overthinking.
Whenever I watch my favorite childhood cartoon, I’m not thinking about my personal life, but how magical and quirky the characters are.
3. Quit talking badly about yourself
Even if you feel like others do.
They are not meant to validate you.
You are the key to accepting and loving yourself unapologetically.
There is never a reason to talk badly about yourself.
Even if you’re constantly criticized or made to feel that you could do or be better.
When you talk about yourself, you are communicating these four things:
- I’m not good enough
- I am to be different than who I am
- My circumstances determine who I am
- I want validation and sympathy from other people
It’s time you reframe negative thoughts about yourself. Here’s how to break it?
- Catch yourself when a negative thoughts arise, and in that moment, you choose not to engage in it.
- Reframe your negative thoughts with kind words. For example. “I keep messing up”- change this thought to “ I am human, I’m still learning and growing, and it’s okay when I make a mistake”.
- Say the new thought out loud. Repeat it over and over again, until you believe it.
4. Care for yourself like no other
Because honestly? Who’s going to know exactly what you need and when you need it?
No one.
And I say that with love because I’ve been there.
Don’t get caught up waiting for others to prioritize your needs- start doing it for yourself.
It might be a hard pill to swallow but no one will be showing up to help you be your best self.
So, start taking care of yourself like no other.
When you’re feeling tired, put your phone on DND and rest, go to bed early, eat healthy foods to nourish your body, exercise regularly, practice good hygiene, treat yourself like a princess and start a slow living hobby to relax your mind.
5. Do one tiny thing that feels good
And don’t even think about feeling guilty about it.
You don’t always have to do anything big or fancy to be happy with yourself again, you just need to do one thing that brings you pure joy.
Maybe it’s stepping outside, closing your eyes for five minutes, breathing in some fresh air while feeling the warm sun on your face, or making your coffee the exact way you like it.
Believe it or not these little feel good moments will be a reminder that you’re important and you deserve to be happy.
Here are a few other tiny joys to bring your joy back:
- Putting on your favorite song and moving your body to feel free and sensual
- Go outside for a walk and unwind, noticing the trees and the sky.
- Having a really good cry
- Watching a nostalgic movie that makes you laugh
- Lighting a candle and meditating for 5 minutes
6. Think about the things you’re grateful for
You’ll get a new perspective on life.
Once I started gratitude journaling, I realized that I had overlooked the things I had and what I was good at.
I was so caught up in up in what I was doing wrong I totally forgot about the small obvious things.
Thinking about the things I’m grateful for brought me back to myself which gave me so appreciation for the things I had.
7. Find your life’s purpose (quit waiting for happiness to show up)
Mine is writing. Connecting to other women through my articles to help them step into their dream woman era.
Writing makes me genuinely happy, and I light up just thinking of my next post.
It has led me to realize that I want to pursue an English degree to immerse myself in it fully.
If you haven’t found your life purpose, now’s it’s the time.
So start thinking about that one thing that whispers to your soul.
The thing you can’t get off your mind, and you see yourself losing track of time doing it.
Whether it’s inspiring others, working with wildlife or expressing yourself creatively through writing, painting and crafting, your purpose is waiting on you.
8. Take time out to rediscover yourself ( fall in love with yourself)
To hear your voice again.
Sometimes, we get so distracted by labels- a mom, wife, a daughter, or by our careers that we forget who we are at the core.
The girl who loved to laugh, loved to read, color, paint, or just listen to music.
Explore the old versions of you that light you up, where you were genuinely happy.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you can rediscover newer versions of you.
There aren’t any rules.
So step outside of your comfort zone- try new things, spend time with yourself, and become your best friend.
Here’s how you can be happy by genuinely loving yourself:
- Speak to yourself with kindness- “I am doing my best”; “I am enough”.
- Treat yourself how you want to be treated- give yourself the ultimate princess treatment because you are worthy
- Protect your peace by setting healthy boundaries
- Make time for self-care- reciting affirmations, journaling, yoga, or lighting some candles for a soothing bath
- Forgive yourself for past mistakes
9. Let go of perfection
And accept that a perfect life does not exist.
Accept that every time you fall, stumble, or mess up, you are learning.
So don’t be afraid of your lessons.
Live in the now.
Enjoy the little things.
And choose to be happy- even when things aren’t perfect.
A few things you can do to choose happiness every day:
- Start your day with a positive affirmation
- Romanticize your life every second you get
- Go outside and connect with nature
- Be gentle and kind to yourself
- Let go of control and just be
- End your day with a reflection for a fresh start tomorrow
This post was all about how to be happy with yourself.
Final thoughts on how to be genuinely happy with yourself (again)
Finding true happiness within yourself is a deeply personal and empowering journey. It requires returning to the root of who you are, beyond being perfect, seeking validation, or accomplishing your goals.
It comes from within, from the peace and joy you create by embracing your uniqueness and trusting your worth.
As you walk on a new path of being happy with yourself again, allow yourself to make mistakes, knowing that perfection is an illusion.
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